<p>I direct an anti-polarization organization. In our work fighting division, we partner with a number of neuroscientists, social scientists, academics and experts who have worked to reduce conflict in countries around the world. They all see the warning signs here in the United States; many have shifted from working overseas to working here. None of them talk about "civility" or "tone."</p><p>What they talk about is the process of a society fragmenting into two increasingly irreconcilable teams. When that happens, a series of dynamics start to kick in that push us further and further apart. At these tipping points, polarization begins to fuel itself, rather than be fueled by disagreement over policies. When that happens, societies can move toward very, very dangerous outcomes.</p><p>Consider that 20 percent of Democrats and 15 percent of Republicans said recently that they sometimes feel like the country would be better off if <a href="https://www.dannyhayes.org/uploads/6/9/8/5/69858539/kalmoe___mason_ncapsa_2019_-_lethal_partisanship_-_final_lmedit.pdf" target="_blank">large numbers of members of the other party simply died</a>. Consider that the Fund for Peace ranks the United States as having the <a href="https://fundforpeace.org/2018/04/23/a-nation-divided-against-itself-internal-divisions-fuel-u-s-worsening/" target="_blank">worst trending social cohesion indicators of any country in the world over the past five years</a>. Consider that the research shows that our divides are increasingly about our identities (who we are) <a href="https://academic.oup.com/poq/article/82/S1/866/4951269?guestAccessKey=ccb478a8-84ee-4dda-ae29-b3ffde16f893%20See%20also%20similar%20research%20on%20Brexit:%20http://theconversation.com/brexit-identities-how-leave-versus-remain-replaced-conservative-versus-labour-affiliations-of-british-voters-110311" target="_blank">and less and less about our ideologies</a> (what we believe). </p><p><div class="x12"><div class="htlad-Desktop_Content_Banner"></div></div></p><p>We can negotiate with the other side about what we believe. We can't negotiate about who we are.</p><p>That is what polarization is about. Not "civility." Not "tone." Incivility can certainly deepen polarization (when's the last time you carefully considered the opinions of a person screaming at you and calling you names?). But calling for everyone to be civil is missing the larger dynamics at play. And caricaturing anti-polarization work as being about asking people to "calm down" (as Kohler put it) is misunderstanding the true purpose of the work. </p><p>So yes, polarization should worry us — not because it might lead to people not being nice to each other when they argue politics, but because it might lead to our country fracturing irreparably. And with that fracturing comes increased violence and hate.</p><p>And polarization should worry us because it makes it harder to address the issues that impact people's lives. Kohler was right that truth and justice are more important than civility. Civility isn't more important than children being separated from their parents at the border, or communities being decimated by closed factories, or racism or the opioid crisis. But polarization makes it harder to solve those problems. For instance, some of our polarization is "false." For example, a forthcoming <a href="https://beyondconflictint.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Beyond Conflict</a> study found that on issues of border security, both Democrats and Republicans believe that the divide between members of the two parties is twice as big as it actually is. Once we realize we don't disagree as deeply as we think we do, collaboration is a lot more likely. </p><p>Kohler was right that we do need a politics of love that goes deeper — an effort to bridge our deepening divides that accounts for our history and for the lived experiences of Americans whose voices aren't often fully represented in our political system (and those Americans exist on the right and left both). The <a href="https://thefulcrum.us/one-america-movement" target="_self">One America Movement</a> brings communities together across divides to act on issues that matter in their communities. Through that collaboration, participants build trust. And when they trust each other, they can begin to have difficult conversations about the really tough issues: racism, identity, history. </p><p>These conversations must then be converted into action. When we are truly in relationships with each other, our neighbor's concerns become our concerns. Collective action across divides is powerful — and in many cases, is what changes public policy in ways that truly make a difference in people's lives.</p><p>Our choice isn't between civility and justice. Our choice is whether we are going to allow our country to fracture beyond repair. If we do, truth and justice won't be the winners.</p>From Your Site Articles
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